THE DOWNSIDE OF CHEATING
First, let’s explore what most people feel is the “upside” of cheating.
Whether you are a man or a woman, if you are involved in a committed, monogamous
relationship, (marriage or otherwise), any outside romantic incursions are
considered cheating, (unless you have the contractual consent of your
significant other; i.e. “open relationship”). If you kiss another person
intimately, you have crossed the line, and are officially a cheater. (“Congrats
on your demotion from the fold of the faithful!”) To a cheater, the upside of
unfaithfulness is the extra, physical, emotional, psychological, and raw sexual
attention the cheater is getting. Does the cheater feel sexually or emotionally
neglected at home? Does the cheater seek to discover how desirable he or she is
to the rest of the world? Is the cheater medically or psychologically aroused
24/7, and “required” to exercise their right to “get off” whenever the need
arises? (“Got a note from your doctor?”) Is the cheater simply following the
innate nature of a habitual cheater? (“I was born this way!”)
The downside of cheating is that it may potentially affect four or more
people, not just the cheater and their partner-in-love. Is the cheater cheating
with another cheater? Does the other cheater know that they are cheating with a
cheater? How then, can a cheater be trusted to only be cheating with the “cheatee”?
Does the cheater or “cheatee” have children at home? (Keep track of all of the
innocent bystanders who get caught in the “Cheat Bomb” explosion as collateral
damage.)
Oh! Did I mention VD? What about the “Crotch Killer”: HIV? Some people
have been known to intentionally infect others with their “undetectable”, fatal
parasites. The cheater might get a little something extra along with their “medically-required
orgasm”. And how does the cheater feel about taking these unwanted,
pleasure-born gifts home to their significant other, (or God forbid, their children)?
The worst side of cheating is getting caught. (Once was enough for me, I
had to walk away. I wanted to destroy someone! Luckily I was saved by video
games. I would rather destroy a million pixels than to end the life of one
human being. Viet Nam taught me that valuable lesson.) So, what then happens to
the family unit as a whole? Separation? Divorce? Or something uncontrollably
worse that is classified as “a fit of passion”?
Honesty is the cure for the “cheating syndrome”. An honest and sincere, prenuptial
discussion about one’s personal needs, at the outset of a serious relationship, will determine unequivocally, whether a relationship or loving bond is feasible
at the current stage of life both parties are in. I tell my wife, of 24.5 years of
faithful marriage, that I wish I had met her first. She said, “No. We would not
have been “seasoned” and ready for each other at an earlier date. We had to be
prepared for each other.” If she is correct, prepare yourself for a faithful
relationship. Pluck some wild male or female weeds before you commit to one
flower. But beware of hidden, or “undetectable” floral traps!
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